Have you noticed that your coworkers’ eyes are glazing over a bit when you talk to them about your wedding?
I need to let you in on a little secret — You might be driving them just a little bit “batty” with the wedding talk.
And since Halloween is over, I am positive that you don’t want to drive anyone “batty.” So, I wanted to share a little trick that I used when I worked in an office setting.
1. Stop the “wedding talk” with all of the straight men. Let’s get real – If Tony Romo isn’t the groom and Halle Berry isn’t the bride (and she better be naked), they are probably not interested.
2. Stop the “wedding talk” with all of the gay men too. Unless he is your wedding planner or one of your “office BFFs,” he probably doesn’t want to hear all of the wedding day details either. A friend of mine reminds me often that “not all gay men are interested in weddings, fashion and interior design!”
3. Stop the “wedding talk” with all of the coworkers that aren’t invited to your wedding. If you give your coworker a lot of information about your wedding, s/he will assume that a wedding invitation is on its way. And that can be quite an awkward revelation for both parties when the invitations are actually received by everyone.
4. Stop the “wedding talk” with your coworkers that are dealing with relationship issues. You may simply be excited about your wedding, but I can guarantee you that you are being viewed as a little insensitive if you continue to share wedding stories with your coworkers that are going through a break-up or a separation or a divorce.
5. Stop the “wedding talk” with anyone that has a direct impact on your performance review. I don’t care if you save the office with one hand tied behind your back, your reviewers could still assume that you were “distracted” if you share one too many wedding details.
If your office has a 360 degree review, then you should cut out your assistant too (or anyone that reports to you). They are probably too chicken to say “enough,” but I can assure you that they would prefer to be surprised with all of your wedding’s special touches.
So, who’s left? No one. Unless, a coworker specifically asks about your wedding day, save the details for your loved ones (or better yet, your wedding planner).
Love & Soul Always, Kay
